I’m often asked this question.  My answer often surprises the leader who asks it. 

If you want to develop people better, you will first have to look at your own leadership.  My friends Steve and Jill Morris make a distinction between lead management and boss management (the type of authoritarian/power-based leadership that is all too common).  Lead management is about leading people to lead themselves, to develop their own skills and abilities, to be self-evaluating.

This notion of lead management is based on Choice Theory and the work of William Glasser.  It is spelled out in a short but powerful book called “Leadership Simple” that was one of the most impactful books I read last year.  I encourage all leaders to take a look at this.  

A true leader makes choices deliberately after doing a careful self-evaluation.  They define what they want, they own their perceptions of what seems to be happening (without projecting that on others), and they lead others to do the same. 

It should be a relief to leaders that you don’t have to figure out how to develop each one of your people (they are all unique, afterall).  You do need to be deliberate and aware of what you want, what they want, and know how to lead people through a process of change that is of their own choosing.